• Stacy

    I read the article. It was very well written. I think this woman is extreme though. Yes, if you make your baby cry for two hours, THAT is abuse. But if you lay your baby down in the crib so he/she can go to sleep by himself, to me, that isn’t abuse. Kailyn was rocked, massaged, sung to, nursed, etc to sleep since she was born. I STILL have to rock her to sleep now and she is three. I don’t want to say that I regret doing that, because it was a special time with her. But, I obviously can’t rock her to sleep forever. At some point in time, she’s going to have to sleep on her own. And yes, there is going to be tantrums.

    I don’t want to be rude, but what’s the difference between the baby crying in the crib and the baby crying ON you? You say Ronan pinches, screams, etc….what is the difference?

    With Adrienne, I decided I couldn’t rock her to sleep all the time. I make sure she is full, dry, and comortable. I lay her down in her bassinet and she will babble and sometimes cry for about three minutes….and then she’s out for the entire night. I think they sleep better when they start out in the crib. Instead of rocking to sleep and putting them in the crib. They’ll wake up and not know where they are. Anyways, I don’t fully disagree with what that woman says….but I don’t agree with everything she said either.

  • http://www.tempestbeauty.com Mandy

    I think you must be confused, Stacy. It might be my fault if I’ve portrayed it that way, but we don’t let Ronan cry, within normal reason. (If I take something dangerous away from him and it makes him cry, or I put him in the car seat and he’s upset about it, I don’t sweat it.)

    When it is bed time, Ronan goes down very easily. (6-7pm on a normal night.) We lay him down, and he goes to sleep somewhere between 2 and 20 minutes later. Usually no talking, no babbling, no playing, no crying.

    When he wakes up (some time between 9 and 11) he sometimes thinks it’s time to get up, and THEN we have to work hard to get him to go back to sleep. Sometimes we fail, and get him up for an hour or two before trying again. Still, no crying. We’ll try until we’re sure he’s not going back to bed easily, and get him up.

    What I’m talking about when Ronan cries is in the middle of the night – 1 or 2 am, sometimes 4 and 5 am, when he has a ‘waking’ he wakes up SCREAMING. He doesn’t just wake, calmly, and make noise. He doesn’t snuffle around and try to go back to sleep. He wakes immediately, urgently, and crying very hard. THAT is the crying I am talking about.

    And when I talk about him pinching and kicking, that is only during breastfeeding. There is no crying there either. He has phases that he goes through where he can’t settle AT ALL even when he’s on the breast. He smacks at me, pinches my nipple while it’s in his mouth, pulls his legs back and digs them into my stomach (all while nursing laying down). Now, when he does this, I just unlatch him for a minute or two, tell him he needs to settle down, and try again.

    Again, I’m sorry if I gave you the impression that Ronan cries and kicks and screams when we’re trying to put him to bed. I have ONE TIME tried to get him to go back to sleep at night without nursing him or comforting him, and it involved crying. I felt like it was no better than CIO, it didn’t work, and we resolved never to do it again.

    I hope that clears it up for you.

  • stacy

    OOOhhhh okay! I thought you would start out rocking him and he would throw fits! Kailyn would do that allll the time. Sorry for the misunderstanding!