Some Ronan and Some Ruby


I took my camera out on a beautiful day, and took some fun pictures.

Ronan wanted to run around outside, so dad went with him.  I followed along and snapped!

Ronan pretending he fell down.  “Ooowwwwwwww.”

Dad gave him a stick, and he was very proud of it.

I don’t know why, I just love this picture.

Blue eyed babe!  Probably saying something here like, “Zigga zigga?”

SO glad I caught this shot!

In the world of Ronan, we have begun using Time Outs.  I have wanted some form of discipline for a while now, and haven’t found anything that works.  We’ve tried time-outs before and ended up with bigger tantrums than the original problem!  Brock and I have both smacked or spanked Ronan on occasion and have firmly decided that we don’t like it as discipline, and it doesn’t work with Ronan.  He will cry, and then repeat the offending behavior.  It was time for something new.

I watched an episode of “Super Nanny” with a little boy I could TOTALLY picture Ronan becoming with the wrong discipline.  Super Nanny went over the rules of the Time Out, so I wrote them down and tried them the next time Ronan acted up.  We use the steps:

A warning for bad behavior – “If you continue to do that, you will go to time out.”

Place in the “Naughty spot” – We’ve used the landing on our stairs, where there are no toys or distractions around.

Explain why the child is in time out – “You are in Time Out because you threw your toy after being told not to throw toys.”

Set a timer for the same number of minutes as the child’s age – Ronan gets 2 minute time outs.

Return child to time out spot and reset timer if the child attempts to leave – do not talk to child, just return to the spot.

When the two minutes are up, explain again why the child was in time out, then ask for an apology, hugs and kisses. (If the child is not ready to apologize, he/she must remain in time out.)

So.

I can’t even remember what Ronan was doing wrong.  But I warned him, “If you do that again, you will be going to time out.”  Of course, he did it again.  I picked him up, carried him to the landing, set him on his bottom and said, “You are in Time Out.  You are in time out because you… threw your toy.”  We’ll just go with that.  “You must sit here for two minutes.  I will come and get you when your time out is over.”

Of course, he screamed and hollered and left the landing.  I carried him back to the spot and reset the timer.  It probably took about 20 minutes for him to sit the whole 2 minutes of his time out.  He cried the whole time.  When the alarm went off, I walked over and picked him up.  I told him he was in time out because of *throwing his toys.  I asked him to say he was sorry and give me a hug and a kiss, and he gave me a hug and a kiss.  We’ll work on saying, “Sorry” when he’s able to talk.

He didn’t have ANY other misbehaviors for the rest of the day.  As a matter of fact, we’ve been able to use the ‘threat’ of time out very effectively… from him throwing fits during diaper changes, to hitting during rough-housing with dad.  The past two days, he’s gone to time out 3-4 times per day.  I can easily picture days where he’ll be there more often than not, but so far I’m very pleased with the results.  Since the first time, he cries but he stays in time out until the timer is up.  WIN.

Ok.  On to Ruby pictures.

Kissy lips!

This may or may not be a ‘real’ smile, but I’m going to pretend it is.

I love these little feet… and this little bottom.  Also?  Cloth diapers! (I have never done so much laundry in my life.)

I love her little expression… I also love that little tuft of hair.

So SWEET!

Ok, Ruby deserves an update too.  I should have made this two blog posts.

Anyways.  I had to take Ruby to the pediatrician today for Thrush.  I knew she had it, but I didn’t treat her for it – when Ronan had thrush, I would treat him with Gentain Violet, and every time the Ped saw him, I’d bring up his thrush again.  He’d look in Ronan’s mouth and say, “I don’t see any.  You must be mistaken.”

We got a new pediatrician.

So I left Ruby for a few days, to make sure the Ped would see the thrush and be willing to give us a prescription.  He looked in her mouth and proclaimed that she had a VERY bad case of thrush.  I felt awful.  He gave us the script, and told me to go ahead and give her some Gentain Violet to help ease her symptoms until the meds kicked in.  I am also on a 5 day course of Diflucan, so hopefully we will kick this yeast sooner than later.  It took us 3 months with Ronan.

Also, she weighs 10lbs 8oz already!  At four weeks old.  I wish I knew how quickly Ronan grew, but it has been incredible.  I can literally see more chub on her thighs from day to day.  She’s grown out of all of her newborn sizes, and I’ve packed them away.  Holy moly, hold on for dear life, this is going fast.

Sleep is so back and forth.  She was up from 11:30pm last night until nearly 3am, crying.  Aaaaaannnd… then she slept until 9:30.  Without waking.  Bad+Good = Okay?

That’s all the energy I’ve got.

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Ronan is 2 years old, and Ruby is 1 month old, and I don’t matter any more!

  • Becca

    We have used ‘supernanny timeouts’ with riley since she was about 14 months old. At first, it was four or five times a day, now its MAYBE three times a week!! Good luck with it! I hope it works for you as it has for us!

    I could eat little Ruby up!! Too cute!!

    • http://www.tempestbeauty.com/about-this-blogger/admin/ Mandy

      Man! I wish I had started at 14 months >< I really had no idea what to do. Thank goodness for Super Nanny. :)

  • http://babybabylemon.com Amy @ babybabylemon

    Oh, she is just darling. We are getting ready to start time outs. You explained it so well, I think I’ll just try that method now that I know what to do.
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    • http://www.tempestbeauty.com/about-this-blogger/admin/ Mandy

      Thanks Amy 😀

      Good luck with your time outs! The first time was really hard. If you can, try to watch the episode of Super Nanny on Hulu – it’s the Foerbrush family. I hope they work out as well for you as they have for us. :)

  • Brock

    We make some darn fine lookin’ kids.

    • http://www.tempestbeauty.com/about-this-blogger/admin/ Mandy

      Yessir, we surely do.

  • @Lisa_Amarna

    Lovely babies. :)

  • http://www.dahnya.blogspot.com Dahnya, dahnya@gmail.com

    Chubby cheeks!! Too cute!!
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  • Andrea

    I LOVE the photo of Ronan dunking a basket- amazing. And I LOVE supernanny. keep telling us how the time outs are going- I have a 19 month old and want to start official time outs with him when he turns two. (he’s not really ready for it yet, plus his tantrums are only a few seconds right now)
    THANK YOU.
    Your kids are beautiful.

    • http://www.tempestbeauty.com/about-this-blogger/admin/ Mandy

      Wow… thank you Andrea. That one was my favorite picture of the whole day. 😀

  • Adam

    Sarah says YAY!!!!!

  • http://sandyandi146.deviantart.com/ Andrea

    Oh and I just wanted to share my blog with you. I know you don’t find the time to read a lot of them, you’re busy, but so am I. I hardly ever write. at all. as you’ll notice from my like 5 posts since last year. but I wanted to share my latest with you because I posted some photos, too:

    http://andreaseiden.wordpress.com/2011/03/15/a-rare-post-from-me/

  • http://janusfiles.xanga.com Janus

    Has Ruby’s poop problem improved yet?

    And if I’m not mistaken, I think her eyes are the same shade of blue that Ronan’s are.
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  • http://www.catelinden.com Cate

    I’m so glad to hear that time-outs are working for Ronan! We’ve been doing kind of the same thing with Simone, but we call it “standing in the corner.” That’s more difficult because we can’t really force her to stand in the corner, so I think we need to try actual time-outs (with similar rules). Another thing that works for us is asking her if she wants us to call Granny and Grandpa and tell them she’s being bad. Mean? Maybe a little. But she looks up to them so much that it often at least distracts her from whatever bad thing she’s doing.

    And Ruby is SO CUTE! Can’t believe she’s so big already.
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    • http://www.tempestbeauty.com/about-this-blogger/admin/ Mandy

      I read a blog once about ‘standing in the corner’ rather than time outs, and I REALLY liked the idea. It had something to say about there not being a ‘time out’ spot in shopping malls and grocery stores, but you can stand with your nose to the wall just about anywhere.

      I’d really like to do that with our kids… I think we may segue into it when Ronan finally realizes that he’s being punished, and we’re not playing the “Stay here” game. ><

  • Mom

    Wonderful blog daughter. I wholeheartedly agree with Brock. You make beautiful grandbabies. Now we just have to work on distance. Keep up the great parenting it’s a continuous work in progress. Love you all lots,miss you all more.

  • http://www.naptimemomtog.com Sarah

    Love this update. We need to be more effective with time outs! Ruby is so precious!
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  • http://www.thejackb.com Jack

    Cute kids.
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